| Beltane |
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I'm very excited about the Beltane retreat I'm going on this weekend, so I was wondering: "How do you celebrate Beltane?". Also, what area of your life will you be wishing for fertility in this year, since none of us here will be wishing for babies? I'll be wishing for a fertile career. |
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| event question |
[Feb. 9th, 2010|05:13 pm] |
I'm posting from my phone so I can't link, but has anyone ever been to the Circle Sanctuary's Pagan Spirit Gathering in Salem, Month? I'm thinking about going, but it would be a 16 hour drive, so I'm wanting to get some opinions/experiences before I finally decide. Good? Bad? Drama? Fluff?
(I thought I was a member of nonfluffypagans, but apparently not and can't save draft to go join then post. So, posting here! May crosspost later when at computer.) |
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| A Depressing Day |
[Jun. 27th, 2008|12:00 am] |
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So much for cf_hardcore. After less than a day I was banned because I was "hateful "about some "poor moo" who was tol not to have children because of her diabetes. Of course she did. First one died after four days. She got pignant again and she miscarried. Im suppoed to feel sorry for this woman? I don't think so. She made a choice. If anyone suffered it was the poor baby that had to lie for four days.
I know that people from my former group got me banned but not before somone remarked that I was either loed not enough or too mch (as in incest). That is unconscionable to say to someone who is a sexual abuse survivor. But that was just fine because it fit in with the agenda of AG and her running dogs. I have learnt that there is PC in the CF world as well and unfortunately if we don'y sob when an irresponsible moo miscarries or has a stillborn, we are "ebil childhatters".
So Yes I am ery depressed and don't know what to do about it. I'm relatiely new to Paganism and would welcome any and all suggestions. |
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| newb |
[May. 28th, 2008|11:21 am] |
Hello everyone,
I'm relatively new to pagan religions (been studying but not practicing for a few years now, and Wicca doesn't exactly appeal to me personally so I'm looking for something that works), and to being childfree. I guess I've always been childfree, but now that I'm 21 and people around me have begun to consider having families, it's become more clear. I do like kids though; just don't want my own.
Does anyone feel called to honor a goddess associated with fertility (Demeter, Brighid, etc.)? How does being childfree affect your relationship with her/them and in what ways would you pray to or honor such a deity? |
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| More evidence of Christofascism. |
[May. 10th, 2008|11:47 am] |
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| | "Roadhouse Blues" - Doors | ] | The pro-lie movement is at it again with a website proclaiming that the birth control pill kills. Yes, their goal has always been about controling women and I've been right for years saying that they wouldn't stop at abortion, wanting to also ban birth control. Their hubris knows no bounds.
In an effort to counteract these morons, maxomai has created a place for our side of the argument to be heard. Please check out this website and provide your story. As soon as I finish posting this, I'm going to write my own for submission. |
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| New Member - And Why the Yule Baby Imagery Doesn't Work For Me |
[Dec. 29th, 2007|08:10 pm] |
Hi everyone! I'm a long-time lurker and I just decided to join the community.
I'm twenty-eight, female and I've been Pagan since I was eleven years old. Oddly enough, I've also known that I never want to have children for nearly as long.
I just wanted to share some of my feelings about the baby-centric imagery of a lot of Pagan solstice rituals at this time of year.
Does anyone else have issues with the whole "Child of Light / God is reborn" imagery of many Yule celebrations? I understand the imagery on an intellectual level, that newborns are supposed to represent new life and new possibility, etc. But for some reason, that imagery makes me cringe. It's not that I hate kids -- I don't. It's just that in recent years I've come to perceive newborns as the opposite of new possibility. On a mundane level, I see babies as opportunities lost, as burdens, as the result of having somehow ruined a chance for living with near perfect freedom.
I prefer to celebrate the Winter Solstice as the Return of the God from the land of the Hyperboreans (I've got a Hellenic focus in my worship). I don't think of the Sun as having died and in need to be reborn.
Does anyone else have similar unease with regards to the baby-imagery of Yule rituals? I'd like to know other people's thoughts on this. |
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| Intro and Question about Childfree-friendly Goddess images |
[Oct. 1st, 2007|11:08 am] |
Quick intro: *waves at group* Hi, I'm laurahcory, thirtysomething, adamantly childfree, Pagan for 16 years (mostly Solitary, though I'm currently in a study group), owned by three uppity cats. Nice to find a childfree Pagan place! :) OK, on to the meat of things...
Sparked by a discussion one friend is currently having about what to call herself as a childfree Pagan woman well out of Maidenhood yet not ready for Crone-hood, I have a question about childfree-friendly Goddesses -- do they exist? Which ones are they, in your experience?
So many goddesses are fertility goddesses, and while Pagans as a whole are more accepting, thankfully, of the childfree lifestyle, there's still a lot of "Earth Mother" energy around, and not all that much of relevance to women who are past the Maiden stage, not yet Crones, but don't see ourselves as Mothers, either.
Some of you may be wondering why I don't just use the "Mother" archetype in the Maiden-Mother-Crone triad anyway. I've tried the "Mother as metaphor" path. Yes, yes, I'm a "Mother" to my creative works, my writing, etc., but it really just doesn't resonate for me. At all. Besides, why should we have to use a word that doesn't fit what we are without a lot of mental gymnastics? "Queen" seems to be a good option -- think the Queen of Swords card from the Tarot, for example.
As I was saying to my friend, it's easy to see when a woman moves from Maiden to Mother; whereas the change from Maiden/Princess to Queen is more gradual and subtle. There's no societally-recognized rite of passage marking the change from that stage to the next, in part because our society doesn't see the value of being childfree.
Maybe we Pagan childfree women need to write some ceremonies of our own, some "Queening" or crowning rituals whereby we recognize each other as ex-Maidens who've matured into the next phase of life. I read about someone having a "I'm not having a baby!" shower; it should be possible to modify something like that for our needs. Does anyone know of anything like that that might already exist? I hate reinventing the wheel if I don't have to.
The trick may be in finding sympathetic goddess images to go along with it. Hmm... Athena/Minerva, Diana/Artemis, Persephone, who else?
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| Mod post |
[Aug. 6th, 2007|01:57 am] |
Heya all.
the past two posts that were nothing but pics... got deleted. i consider it spamming and it should have been behind a cut code. also, there was no viable reason that it wasn't behind a cut code or to be posted here.
edit: alright apparently people don't know the term CUT-CODE. if you're planning on sharing pics there should be at least some attempt at discussion regards to them. also - anyone else pulls that, you get removed and or banned....depending on how i'm feeling.
oh, now all new posts need to be approved. |
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| Out & About |
[Jul. 1st, 2007|06:14 pm] |
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I had a great time yesterday going to see James Marsters. My best friend & I met people & everything. I met a guy who bought us drinks and breakfast. How cool is that?! Anyway he did keep suggesting that the 3 of us get naked & it was hard for him to understand that just b/c we're bi doesn't mean that we're into ea. other. I mean she's like my sister. Ewww!!! Anyway he was really wasted.
My best friend kept talking about how weird and strange it was being out. She hasn't been out in years b/c of her son. And the fact that he's seriously bi-polar just compounds things & makes it difficult to get someone to babysit. He's so difficult to deal with and requires so much energy that she can't get just anyone. I feel for her b/c she's like family, but I just hope it gets easier in different ways as he is able to be more independent. She's such an amazing mother & so patient considering what she deals with. I could never do it. I am so glad I don't want kids b/c, w/my family history of mental and emotional problems I would have a kid just like my crazy ass mother or bi-polar like her kid. |
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| Sorry to some ranters |
[Jun. 29th, 2007|03:41 am] |
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| | The Smiths | ] | I don't remember which journal I posted to(cf_singles or cf_pagan) but I want to apologize for that thing I do, which is always try to get everyone to see the other side. I know it's very contrary and annoying and this is the last place that anyone needs that. I joined this group so I could have a place to rant safely w/o judgements. So I know it's been a while and many people may have forgotten but I am sorry for seemingly jumping on anyone. I don't mean anything by it. I don't want anyone to think I'm really a breeder undercover just her to fuck w/childfree people. LOL Imagine that?!
So moving on... My best friend's annoying bi-polar child is away for the summer so peace and I can visit my cat and hang out w/her w/o interruptions and being asked to watch him(her son), play w/him, or why this or that is that way. AARRGH!!! It drives me bananas. I am screaming in my head "Can't you ever just shut up and be still?!" But I know he can't help it. Bi-polar children are very busy, busy, busy. But knowing is like they say only HALF the battle. Being annoyed is another half, I must say. |
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